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True love is hating what doesn't benifit

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Everybody ,including you and I , have some thing similar and its that we all passed through at some stages of development. Infancy, childhood, adolescence, puberty way up to adulthood. However what matters most is not the similarity, but rather the differences we all had trough these stages. One most outstanding difference is that some of us remained stagnant in the characteristics of some of the stages. In most instances , when you fail to master a stage of life, you suffer its consequence as psychology predicts. Now that may not be the issue of today , though it serves a preamble. In life ,many people fall in love with a variety of aspects, be it love and relationships, money, dressing, sports and games, jobs among others. Most interesting is that majority know that true love is loving one thing wholeheartedly, being devoted to an aspect no matter how hard , bad or even hurting it maybe. To a beginner on how things work out, this might seem a clear explanation of true love. Now let's consider a career where one has planted all his seeds of love for the job that he has no room for venturing in other business. In this way , true love may mean whether you make profits or incur losses, you will always remain devoted to your career even when its crystal clear that the career has no future for the entrepreneur. Diplomatically ,In this way, one has to make a decision about either changing the line of business or else quitting the whole career at large, and venturing into something else profitable, and this is what we mean when we say "true love is hating what doesn't benefit". Today, everyone is struggling to be in a relationship with the person he/she loves truly and wholeheartedly , yes but its theoretical to dream so. What's amazing most is majority of the people don't first fall in love with their hearts and thy selves, for to love another, you have to love yourself first , its like a law of love. You can't give out what you don't have , and still you can't receive what you are not prepared to receive. I love it when I hear of young men and women struggling to keep their relationships at a middle stage of it. One finds out that the relationship has no bright future, but he/she claims to have true love for the partner and he/she vows to fight any hardship or even one vows to die of true love but not leaving a relationship. In this instance, I say such a person has no  love for himself or herself. For one has to love his/herself before  passing it to the other. Most of the earthly things have a small life span , but if not taken care of , their outcomes may leave permanent scars in our hearts. Love is not only about having a deep admiration or feeling a high sense of attraction toward someone or something but it also goes ahead to being responsible for every decision that maybe required. Few, if not non, know that "love is hating what doesn't benefit" , for if your personality has a question, be in regard to behavior, discipline or anything else; true love in this way could mean one has to forego all his bad habits at the expense of the good ones no matter how hard it might be. One has to hate his bad personality first. How can one hate his personality? Identify or recall all you think you've done that you believe pulled you down and think of their respective alternatives, which if you did them , would benefit you. Prepare to organise yourself to switch to a better personality bearing in mind how idiotic you were and the losses you have incurred during those dark days, probably you will hate what doesn't benefit and that's what we call "True love"

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