Its not what we go through that creates happiness. Its how we think and how we interprete what we go thruogh. When I was about six years old, I realised that we were not happy like other neighboring families. I asked my mother, "Mom why aren't we always happy? Why don't we go to the market and buy happiness? I know we don't have money but we can sell part of our land , and use the money to buy enough happiness that will take us for reasonable years until Dad comes back. Now our father had died four years ago but because I was too young by then to understand it, I kept asking for him and because there was no way my mother could explain it to me, she told me he went to graze cattle. " My son, there is no where they sell happiness . We can create the happiness through our thoughts " She answered. "If that is so, then why don't we create it? Why are we always miserable? Does this also depend on the way we think? If so , why don't we think positively and then be happy?" I asked. It was now time to be lectured; She narrated " One day a lamb looked at its mother's Ivory and said ' mother why don't you cut off your big tooth. It makes you look very ugly , I don't like it." In a humble voice the mother elephant answered " When you make about fifteen years, I will cut the tooth off." The lamb was very happy to hear this. It started counting and writing every year it made. One day the lamb made fifteen years and to its surprise, it had also grown an Ivory , which it used to call tooth , and was as big and as ugly as its mother's! Now it understood what its mother meant.What my mother meant by the story was that I was too young to understand what was going on by that time but as I grow I would figure it out. She was right to say that " We can only create happiness through thinking ." What made us miserable all the time was putting much focus on the death of our Father. The day our mother figured out that our Father had gone forever and it was time to move on , everything changed. She comforted us that despite the fact that our father was murdered , it was his destiny and God had answered all his prayers by the time he died. This created a sense of restness in our hearts. Life started again. Yes we were poor and struggling with many life battles but we had comfort in our hearts. The day you realize that the past has nothing to do with your present or future , is the day you will experience true happiness. Accepting your life or your past doesn't mean it was okay for the bad things to happen. It means accepting that they happened but they have nothing to do with your current life or future. Its such a thinking that will change the whole story and gives you a new better comfortable life with the true happiness. It all starts with the thinking.
I was born in 1998 and I lost my father in 2000. I have seven biological brothers and two biological sisters, and am the second last born in the family. By the time my father died, the first born son was studying mechanical engineering and the second eldest brother was in senior six, and that was their end. Everything turned upside down. The next chapter of life was characterized by poverty, tears, grief, sorrow, and misery. One of my brothers attempted to make a suicide; He hang himself on a tree but unfortunately my mother saw him and made a very loud cry to him, in panic the rope slipped from the tree and he felt down, making the suicide unsuccessful. The first born ran mad. I remember him trying to eat a dog alive! In that tearful moments, there are two prayers ( we are Catholics) that created a rock foundation on which the family is built on up to today. One was prayed by my mother and the second one prayed by my second eldest brother. My mother's prayer " Dear Mother Ma...
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