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Forgive them not because they deserve forgiveness but because you deserve inner peace.

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 What to do or not to do in life is not a question of morality or ethics, it is a question of consequences. We are human beings and this means we can never be perfect. We hurt and wrong each other no matter how hard we try not to. Sometimes one wrongs and hurts you deeply in a way that no matter how hard you try to forgive them, you find a missing part. Some one said "when trust is broken, sorry means nothing" ,its hard to forgive sometimes, but the more you keep grudge on a person no matter how guilt he is, the more you keep the pain. Forgive people, not because they deserve forgiveness but because you deserve inner peace. Oprah Winfrey says " Forgiveness is giving up the hope that the past could have been different. Stress comes from thinking that things should have been different. But they have worked out this way for a reason. All you can do is keep moving forward." The reason why it hurts us to forgive people, is because we concentrate our mind on the problem: why did he do that to me? How can she betray me? In all people, why him? Thinking in such a dimension , its hard to forgive. Though it is hurting you, try to think positively: maybe it was accidental ; Maybe he didn't intend it; Maybe he never knew it would hurt me. Maybe she thought it was okay to behave that way. All in all, find a way to forgive your friends. Imagine all the wrong things you have ever done since you were born. What if you were not forgiven every time you acted wrongly? Why should God forgive your sins, when you don't forgive those who wrong you? Kindly , forgive your friends always. Remember, . Most of the earthly things have a small life span , but if not taken care of , their outcomes may leave permanent scars in our hearts.

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