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The greatest discovery of all times is that a person can change his future by merely changing his attitude. Its kind of a human nature that we always like comfort zones. But the truth is, there is nothing good with comfort zones. To be better, we always have to leave our comfort zones and strive for greater success. There is nothing with an everlasting  benefit that comes easy in life. We have to stop excuses and struggle for results. You can have results or excuses , but not both. Its not enough that we do our best , sometimes we must do what is required. There is never a time when everything is okay. There will always be challenges and disappointments. We must get used to life's disappointments, and build greater resilience. I have come to discover  that when we change ourselves, everything changes. Its not the things which happen in our lives that matter, but the meaning we attach to whatever happen to us. What always matters is how we interpret and understand things. Truly...

One time  soldiers went for a war. They fell into an ambush and most of them were killed. Only two of them managed to escape the enemies . But unfortunately, they got lost in the desert. As they were walking , not realising that they were in a landmine field, one of them stepped on a landmine. Not knowing, he lifted his foot to continue walking. The landmine exploded , and destroyed him to ash! The friend, who was now the only one alive , watched him being destroyed to ashes by the landmine. He developed a very deep fear inside him, knowing he won't survive the landmines in the field. He carefully continued walking. Unfortunately, he heard his foot stepping on a hard object in the ground. Without any doubt, he knew it was a landmine too. The only thing he had to do was not to move his foot any more. He remained stationary, keeping his foot on the hard object. Without moving, he picked up his phone and called at the embassy for rescue but all in vain. The desert was too remote, the ...

  When one's mind is made up, fear diminishes. She was never prepared for a quarter of what she went through, but she got thorough it. After losing her husband, she wondered how she could survive with her pregnancy and cater for all their nine other children. After giving birth, her prayer was "God , since my husband is dead , I know this beautiful son of mine can't grow. Just kindly help me and he makes at least one year. Please don't take him now , I beg you. Save me and take him after one year at least, I pray." This lady is my mother. All that, she was praying for our last born. Today ,the person she begged God to take at least when he was a year old, is 19years old studying PEM/ICT in senior six.  Its hard to learn from others, but it's harder to be the example. In this world, we can get whatever we need if we struggle for them, but to get those which will give us happiness, we must put our lives in God's hands. Having a spiritual relationship with Go...

 What to do or not to do in life is not a question of morality or ethics, it is a question of consequences. We are human beings and this means we can never be perfect. We hurt and wrong each other no matter how hard we try not to. Sometimes one wrongs and hurts you deeply in a way that no matter how hard you try to forgive them, you find a missing part. Some one said "when trust is broken, sorry means nothing" ,its hard to forgive sometimes, but the more you keep grudge on a person no matter how guilt he is, the more you keep the pain. Forgive people, not because they deserve forgiveness but because you deserve inner peace. Oprah Winfrey says " Forgiveness is giving up the hope that the past could have been different. Stress comes from thinking that things should have been different. But they have worked out this way for a reason. All you can do is keep moving forward." The reason why it hurts us to forgive people, is because we concentrate our mind on the problem: ...

 For so many times I have tried, but failed to have the courage to put this directly. I called this " poor and broken" in one of the inspirational posts, but that was cake coating a very  sour drug! I admit that our lives are different and tougher. One of my friends lost all his clan mates in one of the wars that happened in Rwanda. His parents and siblings managed to escape the war and migrated to Uganda. After a couple of years , this friend of mine was about 8 years old when his father died. After one year , even the mother died. The next life was worse than what you can imagine. I am not going to describe it , but let's go to the point of focus. According to WHO , about 450 million people struggle with mental illness or psychological disorders. 1 million of these commit suicide every year. What do you do when you feel stressed but have no idea where the stress comes from? What do you do when your own body fails you? From no where you feel you can't breath or stand...

Its not what we go through that creates happiness. Its how we think and how we interprete what we go thruogh. When I was about six years old, I realised that we were not happy like other neighboring families. I asked my mother, "Mom why aren't we always happy? Why don't we go to the market and buy happiness? I know we don't have money but we can sell part of our land , and use the money to buy enough happiness that will take us for reasonable years until Dad comes back. Now our father had died four years ago but because I was too young by then to understand it, I  kept asking for him and because there was no way my mother could explain it to me, she told me he went to graze cattle. " My son, there is no where they sell happiness . We can create the happiness through our thoughts " She answered. "If that is so, then why don't we create it? Why are we always miserable? Does this also depend on the way we think? If so , why don't we think positively...

Do we really see things the way they are or we simply see them depending on how other people see them? Do we know that we really do shape our lives through our thoughts? So many times we disconnect from ourselves and as such life drives us instead of us driving it. We often complain about many things in life but we do nothing about them. Yes, we don't have the power to change anything in the world. But we have the power to change ourselves and that changes everything in the world. The reason why problems persist is because instead of fixing the problems, we fix blames. We are fond of blaming other people for complicating our lives. No body is responsible for your life and if anything is to move forward in your life, it's you to make it happen. You have to strongly believe in yourself and that will increase what is possible for your life. The reason why you give up is because you see failure as a bad thing. But the road that leads to success is Failure. Failure is not the outcom...

Nothing is either good or bad in our lives , its the thinking that makes it so. It seems to be a wrong path simply because you are not managing it rightly. For esitance, if a person disapproves your idea, it doesn't mean the idea is wrong. The idea is right but you haven't figured out yet why its right. Keep the dream alive. Think about it everyday until you find satisfactory reasons as to why you must to do it. It doesn't matter whether other people believe it or criticize it. Aristotle said " There is only one way to avoid criticism:  do nothing , say nothing , and be nothing." The importance of climbing at the top of a mountain is for you to see the world not the world to see you. Its not about people believing you , its about you believing in yourself. We all go through things that aren't fair: diseases attack us, people disappoint us, friends betray us .  However, the disappointment, the loss , and the betrayals are simply a season . Its not the rest of o...

Why do you think so many children fail in school? Why are so many people drunk all the time? Imagine a life that a person who has lost all his relatives in an accident or war go through! What do you think a bride who has lost her groom just a month after getting married experiences. Some people think poverty is the worst in life. Others think losing a relative or loved one is the worst. Well, experiencing both is the worst. Just imagine a person who is "poor and broken inside"; he lost his relatives and also struggles financially. Over one billion children in the world lost their parents. Research shows that 28% of all children in the world live without their fathers, of which 24.7 million of these live in America. Many people who are 'poor and broken inside' commit suicide, others lose hope completely , children develop mental illnesses , majority go insane ,and others run mad. Because of the many limitations in their lives, everything seems impossible. They lose the...

I was born in 1998 and I lost my father in 2000. I have seven biological brothers and two biological sisters, and am the second last born in the family. By the time my father died, the first born son was studying mechanical engineering and the second eldest brother was in senior six, and that was their end. Everything turned upside down. The next chapter of life was characterized by poverty, tears, grief, sorrow, and misery. One of my brothers attempted to make a suicide; He hang himself on a tree but unfortunately my mother saw him and made a very loud cry to him, in panic the rope slipped from the tree and he felt down, making the suicide unsuccessful. The first born ran mad. I remember him trying to eat a dog alive!  In that tearful moments, there are two prayers ( we are Catholics) that created a rock foundation on which the family is built on up to today. One was prayed by my mother and the second one prayed by my second eldest brother. My mother's prayer " Dear Mother Ma...

"You might have sufficient reasons to hate anyone, but please don't ".  Nelson Mandela and comrades were imprisoned for life due to use of unlawful methods while fighting against Whites oppression. While in prison , Mandela lost his first born son and mother and was denied access to burry them! After 27years in prison , Whites requested to hold a discussion with Mandela out of the prison due to the persistent demonstration and strikes by Africans claiming for the release of their savior. Mandela realised that Whites by then were weakened but were afraid of the revenge Africans would make if they acquired power. In the discussion, Mandela told the whites " we are not like you, we are not fighting to mistreat you but for equality ."  After Mandela becoming the president, blacks started killing whites and pressurized him to chase whites away from South Africa as a revenge! Mandela refused and instead fought against black domination against Whites! "Mandela f...

If all people threw their problems in a basket, we would realize how lucky we are. "She whipped me so badly that I had welts on my back and the welts could bleed and so then I got another whipping for getting blood on my clothes! We were so poor that often many times I could wear clothes made up of potato sacks" - Oprah Winfrey's childhood experience. One of my friends invited me for a burial of his father, it was a painful moment for him but , speaking the truth, neither did I get hurt nor sympathetic but instead wished if it was me! I just imagined how lucky he was that his father died when he had even completed university studies. If God gave me that chance! I imagined that even if my father resurrects today , I can't recognize his face!  I was too young to remember him. What is the lesson in this? Don't judge anyone in this world unless you know their lives. Some of us battles stress, frustrations,anxiety and depression every day. We search for happiness in al...

If you judge people, you have no time to love them. Help people not because of who they are or what they do in return , but because of who you are. Real integrity is doing the right thing knowing that nobody is going to know whether you did or not. The greatest discovery of all time is that a person can change his future by merely changing his attitude. Some people hurt us sometimes not willingly, sometimes ignorantly. Its our duty to understand their situation and don't hurt them back. Some people walk around just looking defeated, they have lost hope ,they don't bather even trying it out. They made mistakes before and have all given up. They keep telling you it can't be done, its impossible , don't even try it . But its them not you. Their failures shouldn't be yours. Most of us don't discover who we are on time. We simply try to fit into whatever is available and when such isn't available anymore, we look for whatever is available! That's the number o...

"I went to KFC. 24 people went for the job, 23 were accepted, I was the only one rejected. And we went for police, five people full of them accepted, I was the only one rejected. I applied for Harvard ten times rejected" said by Jack ma, richest man in China. When you've exhausted all possibilities, remember this , you haven't . No matter how bad it is , it could always be worse. Be glad its not. Put your problems in proper perspective. The reason why we don't become who we want to be is because we do attach to who we've been. Haven't you ever hard people saying " but i have always been like this!" Most of us want the convenience of transformation without the inconvenience required for the transformation. Let go of the past so that you can create a better future. It doesn't mean what happened was right, it means your future happiness is more important than holding on to something you can't change. If you want to achieve something differen...

God loves you because of who God is, not because of anything you did or didn't do. I believe in God as I believe that that the sun has risen; not only because I see it , but because by it I see everything else. Knowing that God is there for me , that He knows and loves me personally. Knowing that God is there for each one of us , that He knows us and loves us; we can place our trust in him. Like Janet Kataaha Museveni said in her book 'my life's journey, the same thing is happening in my area. "During my teenage years, there was a new movement within the Christian circles that called itself the 'Re-awakened' This group believed that a person could not profess to be a Christian unless they adhered to strict codes of conduct such as wearing long dresses for women, no jewellery and cutting their hair very short. To me, this group seemed to focus more on outward observances than on the condition of one's heart and they were very critical of other Christians who...

Life only changes when it challenges us. At one point , we have all ever fallen into dilemmas. But is it the problems that destroy us or we destroy ourselves? The problems we have today may not exist in ten years to come , but we will. Every problem has a limited life span. Problems do end, but the question is; how have they ended? Have they destroyed or strengthened us? We can choose what the problems will do to us. We can control our reaction to the problem even when we can't control the problem. When we control our reaction to the seemingly uncontrollable problems of life, then in fact we do control the problems' effect on us. There is not necessarily a solution for every problem; however, every problem can be managed positively. Whatever doesn't kill me really makes me stronger. Do you believe that everything happens for a reason that benefits us in some way? What if that difficult person came into your life to make you learn something; patience, how not to treat people...

A family is not destroyed by the loss of its parents, but by  lack of nurture of its children. Yes its true that,many times as parents, we must make tough choices concerning our children and we must always do what is best for them even if in the short term it might seem harsh or painful . However , we must struggle and think hard not to violet their rights while nurturing them. In the end, your children will thank you for setting boundaries in their lives that allowed them to grow into well-adjusted people. There is not necessary a solution for every problem that the children present to us; however , every problem can be managed positively. For esitance; as we grew, our mothers could pound tablets , mix it with water and give us drink whenever we were sick. Because the medicine was sour , we could usually vomit it. Some mothers would slap us for that, others could just ignore it. As children, was it our fault to vomit the medicine? Was it our parents' fault? A child vomits somethin...

Yes, its true that we understand things not the way they are , but the way we are.  A certain kid saw an aeroplane passing through the sky. Because it was his first time, the kid was confused. He couldn't understand it. Finally he asked his father "Father what is that thing passing through the sky?". The father replied " Its an aeroplane ". Kid asked again " what is its importance? ".  The father replied " Its used to transport people or lagage among countries or continents". The kid rejected the father's answers. He couldn't believe the tiny thing he saw in the sky can carry even one person! One time , the kid and his father went to a beach that is just opposite an airport. The father used the chance to explain to the little boy the meaning of aeroplane using the physical stationary aeroplanes at the airport . This time the kid believed because the aeroplanes were too big not like the other tiny one he saw in the sky. The kid didn...

In the journey of life, there is a point where everything seems to have a dead end. A point where there is no single hope left. A point where saying that we have problems, is an under statement. Its at this point where one questions the value of his existence on earth. But is there a dead end really?  "Now it happened on a day when his sons and his daughters were eating and drinking wine in their oldest brother's house, that a messenger came to Job and said , 'the oxen were plowing and the donkeys feeding beside them, and the Sabeans attacked  and took them. They also slew the servants with the edge of the sword, and I alone have escaped to tell you".  While he was still speaking, another also came and said, " the fire of God fell from heaven and burned up the sheep and the servants and consumed them: and I alone have escaped to tell you".  While he was still speaking, another also came and said, " the Chaldeans formed three bands and made a raid on the...

We all have the pressure that we have got to deal with everyday ;with friends, with family , with worker mates, with parents among others. The more you listen to opinions of people on the expense of yours, the more you lose who you are! Recently, I realised I don't know how to be anything but myself. What you believe in and how you feel about yourself is more important than how anyone feel about you. Manage your emotions, the right way is the domination of the mind over the emotions. When you make loving others the story of your life , there is never a final chapter , because the legacy continues! Concentrate your energies , your thoughts and your capital. The wise man puts all his eggs in one basket and watches the basket. Whatever you pay attention to either bad or good will grow. The mistake we make is to focus on what doesn't matter much! Figure out a few things that really matter to your success in life and concentrate on them. One of my thought leaders, Oprah Winfrey, con...

 A bat doesn't see, but it can never collide with obstacles!! As the bat is moving, it emits sound waves of  frequencies above  20000 hertz through its mouth and nostrils. When the waves reaches the obstacle , they get reflected back and are detected by the bat. In that way the bat is able to locate obstacles and avoids them. Many of us human beings don't develop the insight of the likely obstacles ahead of us! We end up lamenting, regretting and grabbling ! Every decision you make  creates an action that either make you move a step forward or backward . When I was young , I liked sweet. Whenever my mother could send me to the market to buy tomatoes, usually of 500/=, I could buy sweets for 100/= first, proceed to the market and buy tomatoes for 400/= . One day as usual , I bought the sweets first but surprisingly I found no tomatoes in the market!! I went back home without the tomatoes and with incomplete money! My mother asked " If the tomatoes were not there, then...

"Believing that tomorrow will be better, we bear the hardship today with a smile."  People say history repeats itself! I don't really think it does! It is only true if we don't learn the lessons in it , which we usually do! We only recall the dates and the events but not the lessons ! The same applies to failure .   If you continue living , you will definitely fail at one point or the other. It really hurts to fail!  However, its not the failure that destroy us but how we think about the failure. Even when you have failed ten times on the same thing, don't give up .Through persistence, water penetrates rocks . Learn something new every time you fail, eventually you will win. Its the hope that today it has failed but tomorrow we will make it that keeps us struggling and surely we will get it. One of my thought leaders  concretizes it this way " We should actually be grateful that some things don't work out the way we once wanted them to. When we fail or ge...

Will Ferrell said "Empathy and kindness are the true signs of emotional intelligence". A certain professor was teaching political science. In the class, there was a rich politician who always undermined the professor. One time the politician asked "Professor, do you know how to swim?" Professor; No please!     Politician; what a shame! Even a dog is better than you , because for it can swim !        Professor;Okay. Do you know how to swim?  Politician; Yes of course!   Professor; Then what is difference between you and a dog?    Politician( in shame); Okay let's talk sense now. If you are presented two things now, money and wisdom, which one would you choose?       Professor; Obviously money.      Politician; I wonder how you became a professor!! Don't you know it's wisdom that makes money! Definitely , you had to choose wisdom!!         Professor; Obviously, we choos...

Its our decisions not our situations that control our lives and destiny. Bob Marley said " Some people dance in rain, others just get wet".   We make our habits, and then the habits make us. What we repeatedly do makes our destiny that creates a reality. I am where I am because of what I believe is possible for me! Why do you have a smart phone? Who do you want to become? What do you need to have? Why are you doing that course? The first step in determining our future, is to "begin with the end in mind".   How many people have degrees but are of no use to them? If we don't define our character before the achievement, the achievement destroys who we are! At what time are you going to wake up tomorrow? If you know that's good. If you don't know , learn this. Value every minute of your life. What is the most important thing can I do with my life today, tomorrow, or next month? I think and therefore I become. If I fail to master myself, I will be a slave of ...